How to Overcome Male Violence

Male violence is closely linked to what we now recognize as Domestic Violence. The men, according to the culture assume that their opinion and position on the world is truth, truth is truth. For the sake of enforcing that point of view, we denote a set of attitudes that justify their presence. However, despite the fact that others suffer the exercise of such violence, lots of men do not recognize it as such, as the make and bring in their task as something that defines and beyond. Fortunately, some men have begun to become aware of the ravages of their violent actions, particularly in its closest affection: spouse, children, parents.

Violence is defined as those acts of nature that break down the resistance by force or will of a person or thing. In this case, violates the will of another to impose. All violence is linked to abuse whether physical, emotional or psychological, moral and sexual. Which is shown in offenses, beatings, harassment, threats, insults, disrespect or provocation.

Male violence that occurs within the family, as previously mentioned, is linked to the place of intimacy, of the family. Today, families are formed with a myriad of ways and forms. So what defines a family group are those people who are living through some relationship, given time, with patterns and interactions of relationship.

That is, male violence is directed mainly to those who live in the space of the family such as spouse and children, first and another member who is in this space. This section will not talk about violence in the regarding the family, but rather to the couple ...

For Intimate partner violence includes acts that are performed systematically and involve damage to any of the fields to their partner. The deterioration that occurs goes to the person, their self-esteem, as it violates, in a constant and permanent spaces, in order to take power and unbalance the pair. But how, I do love me say that both ... obviously not talking about conscious situations, however, the supremacy takes over the relationship, and usually, the woman, who suffers the consequences.

Unfortunately, these behaviors of violence committed by some men, it is usually supported by family, social, and even older women encourage him: "He is the man of the house."

Aggression or violence is so devastating, the sufferer is permanently in a state of traumatic shock so you can not react to these forms of acting violent partner. Every human person has spaces or areas where it is own living, these are: physical, emotional, or social relationships and a manner of speaking, cultural.

When any of these spaces is violated, we are dealing with acts of abuse, however subtle, or outrageous they may seem. Physical space is vital, every human being needs its own private space, even when we live as a couple. And that includes also the place where the person carries out its activities, whether work, home, family, etc.. It is in this place in which male violence is expressed with greater momentum. Unfortunately because the other areas when there is little recognized, but also wreaks havoc not seen, but deteriorate the essence of his dearest affections.

With regard to emotional or psychological space that is also linked to the moral, talking about feelings, thoughts and the same person as to its integrity. In this area of ​​human living is one that suffers the most damage against abuse and violence. Usually when this area is affected decision making is invaded by the conflict, the reality does not reflect a good sense, therefore, it is here, where to apply the most severe judgments: "I already I had left "," do not know how you can tolerate that situation, "" anyone can be aware of the circumstances, any less the victim. "

This type of violence being violated, integrity, self-esteem, self-concept also live in a permanent traumatic stress. Fortunately, it is the victim of abuse, who often says, no more, no more, when it has reached the limit of tolerance. But for this to happen, must pass several attacks, suffering and wear.

In regard to the social space are found a multitude of factors that encourage violence, and others reveal what's wrong as a way of relating. However, some men feel entitled to break into the social space their partners: "Do not go home to your parents", "As you leave the job, you go home." Spying, distrust, prohibit, and also sense of ownership over the life of the couple, who determine themselves, and who do not interact. At first glance it would seem that women allow it, but it is important to understand that it is a combination of factors cultural allow this to happen to both partners.

It takes great courage to acknowledge that one or is embroiled in a relationship of this nature. Both men and women require a name, and this is called violence.

With regard to cultural space are rooted customs, beliefs and what is expected of a man or a woman. Therefore, the cultural space tends to perpetuate or not, male violence within the couple's ...

There are various types of violence within which are:

VIOLENCE F? SICA:

This violence or aggression is closely linked to the beatings, assaults and to pulls, pushes, as well as breaking things, draw knives and threatened the couple. No, Henry David Thoreau said, "Most people live their lives in quiet desperation." I think this phrase describes the unique way we live, when the family, children, women, and men themselves, exercise violence as a form of relationship.

SEXUAL VIOLENCE:

As its name suggests this type of aggression is linked to sexuality and forms of exercise. It can range from acts which impose the couple disagree and go against their will to the total indifference as punishment for acts that the offender be counted worthy of abuse. Here are the whores, who do not give place, which are flirty, besides those who were unable to save her virginity to him, even when they are fifty years. Many atrocities are committed in the name of love!

In this type of violence the punishment is permanent and constant. The assailant is a charm in the social sphere. However, in terms of privacy becomes hostile, aggressive, distant, and therefore abusive.

This experience has on the victim a sense of worthlessness, of not being desired, and therefore, to border on insanity. In most cases, the man with his strength, at times, places sex at any price ...



VERBAL AND NON VERBAL VIOLENCE:

This space is so subtle, that is barely perceptible to who provides it to the sufferer, the couple. It is a way to make the couple feel it is wrong, or outright crazy. In this category are observed, Three main types of violence:

1 .- threats "do not ever tell anyone what happens at home," supported by the beliefs of "laundry is washed at home." That is, it violates the will of the people in terms of expressing their experience on the outside. It is a way of exercising a power of fear, power ... of course, women in their social acceptance, allow this type of situation in their culture.

Here also are ways to degrade, insult, hurt, make them feel ridiculous in subtle ways, leading to a deterioration in very deep emotional and spiritual. Such violence is not seen, but experienced great pain and despair. On the outside signal indicates that the type, is a gentleman, so she exaggerates.

Here is what hurts is the permanence, constancy and consistency of subtle attacks ...

2 .- The objectification that is, the couple is seen as a concept or thing in his nature, this leads to statements like, "You're a fool," "you are or do," "I think very ... "

Other ways of objectification are directly linked to covert aggression life of the couple, such as speaking ill of her family or him, criticize and make judgments about the behavior of the partner, always make you feel that is wrong. Generally expose their families in public about their weaknesses or, sarcastically mock them in private.

The goal is degradation. The humiliation and destabilize any trait of generosity or security of person. The experience is so harrowing that the victim is unable to process as many messages ... hence the confusion and quiet desperation ...

Symptoms: depression, anxiety, sleep disorders, eating disorders, irritability, loss of sense of existence, for no apparent reason.

Of course no apparent reason, only the constant and permanent aggression in a subtle and veiled, by one who is our great love. Verbal abuse is denoted here with great intensity ... you ... any word you want to add ...

3 .- Verbal Violence: This is a powerful weapon for the disintegration of the couple in their entirety. The words, insults, manners and ways of saying things, that denotes whether or not there is violence in our ways of relating with your partner ...

EMOTIONAL VIOLENCE:

Emotional violence has many faces and a lot of forms of expression, but it seems that everyone sees, unless the sufferer. The main objective is to destroy self-esteem of the person, in this case, that of the couple.

Emotional violence is directed toward the self-esteem and feelings of the couple. The attacks in this regard are so subtle that they are difficult to recognize at a glance. Because they are so curly in attitudes seems that we pass by. Yet they cause so much havoc in the life of a person, that ultimately is recognized as post-traumatic stress from violence. Such is the pain, such is the desperation that usually makes havoc of such depth that the person who has not gone through this situation, you have trouble understanding.

The invasion of the emotional aspect requires great skill, but also making a couple hundred percent dependent on their coercion. Recall that the social and cultural influence these forms of interaction, not only influence, but encourage them.

"At this moment I remember the case of a patient who was living in this situation of emotional pain with her husband. At that time I had two small children. Were encouraged to go to his mother and say I'm not happy with my husband, and I feel like I'm going crazy.'s mother, beyond comprehension, I choose beliefs, and said to his daughter, for it is better to regain your sanity and recover your reality, because your family and your husband come first "

This mother only cares about the figure of marriage and family, the existence of the daughter did not have any importance. Many women have to endure situations because they find the understanding of other women for whatever reason.

Thus we perpetuate life and justifying domestic violence, but its genesis is in the man's positions, it is important to speak out and lead a fight against domestic violence.

Many sectors of society that are affected by this situation, but we want to change, we need to start with ourselves, whether male or female, we are all affected by this phenomenon ...

It is unnecessary and not justified for such aggression we love ... consider our relationships and our own aggression, but above all, reflect on later generations who will, who manage the world of tomorrow ...

Be aware ... in male violence ... we are all involved ...

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