Saturday, August 4, 2012
How to confront the death of a pet
Anyone considering a pet (pets) as a friend, colleague or family member knows the intense pain that accompanies the loss of that friend. Here are some tips to help you with this match, and the difficult decisions you face the loss of a pet.
Is it crazy to suffer so much?
The intense grief over the loss of a pet (pets) is normal and natural. Do not let anyone tell you it's silly, crazy on you sad.
Over the years they spent together (even if not many), your pet (pets) has become a constant in your life, and a significant part of it. It was a source of companionship and joy, unconditional love and acceptance, and happiness. Do not be surprised then that you feel devastated by the loss of that relationship. People who do not understand the link between the pet and the owner probably will not understand your pain. All that matters, however, is how you feel. Do not let others dictate your feelings. These are valid and can be very painful. But remember, you're not alone. Thousands of pet owners have been there.
What should I expect to feel?
Different people experience grief in different ways. In addition to the sadness and feeling of loss, you may experience some of the following emotions:
Guilt may occur if you feel responsible for the death of your pet (pets). The syndrome. If only he had been more careful .. It makes no sense and is often a mistake to take the blame for the accident or illness that took the life of your pet. Only your grief makes it more difficult to solve.
Denial makes it difficult to accept that your pet is really gone. It's hard to imagine that your pet will no longer receive when you get home, or do not have to serve their meals. Some pet owners carry this to the extreme to feel that your pet is still alive and suffering somewhere. For others it is very difficult to get a new pet for fear of not being loyal to their pet (pets) above.
Anger may be directed at the illness that killed your pet, the driver was driving at an excessive speed, the veterinarian. Failed. failing to save his life. Sometimes it is justified, but when carried to extremes, it distracts you from the important task is to resolve your grief.
Depression is a natural consequence of grief, which can leave you powerless to cope with your feelings. Extreme depression robs you of your motivation and your energy, making you shelter in your sadness.
What I can do with my feelings?
The most important thing is to be honest about your feelings. Do not deny your pain, or feelings of anger and guilt. Only by examining and making peace with your feelings you can solve them.
You have the right to feel pain and sadness. Loved one has died and you feel lonely and desolate. Are also entitled to feel angry or guilty.
Recognize what your feelings, then ask yourself what are the circumstances justify it.
Ignoring the pain will not go away. Express it. Cries, screams, hits the floor, talk. Do what most help. Do not try to avoid the penalty of not talking about your pet, but instead, remember the good times. This will help you really understand what the loss of your pet means to you.
Some find it beneficial to express their feelings and memories in the form of poems, stories, or letters to the pet (pets). Other strategies include modifying your routine in order to fill the gaps of time when you would have been spending time with your pet (pets), preparing a tribute such as a collage of photos, or simply talking to others about your loss.
Who do you talk?
If your family or friends love pets (pets), they will understand what you're going through. Do not hide your feelings in an effort to appear strong and calm. Share your feelings with another person is one of the best ways to put them into perspective and to find ways to deal with. Find someone you can talk about how much your pet meant to you (pets), and how much you miss someone with whom you feel comfortable crying and sharing your grief. If you do not have family or friends who understand, or if you need more help, ask your veterinarian or a humane society to recommend a support group or therapist. Check with your church or in a hospital on therapies for bereavement support. Remember, your grief is genuine and true, and deserves support.
When is the best time to euthanize my pet?
Your veterinarian is the best judge of the physical condition of your pet (pets). Yet you're the best judge as to the quality of life for your pet. If your pet has a good appetite, responds to attention, seeks its owner's company, and participates in play or family life, many owners feel that it is not the time. However, if the pet is in constant pain, undergoing difficult and stressful treatments that are not helpful, does not respond to affection, not aware of your surroundings, and is not interested in life, a responsible pet owner will probably choose ending the suffering of his beloved companion.
Honestly assess your health and unselfishly with your veterinarian. Prolong the suffering of your pet to prevent your suffering does not help either. There is nothing that makes this decision easy or painless, but consider it as the ultimate act of love you can do for your pet (pets).
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